36: Forgiveness Redefined with Candice Mama

by | Apr 27, 2021

Madeleine Black
36: Forgiveness Redefined with Candice Mama

I was in awe of the resilience, strength and massive heart of my guest this week.

Can you imagine going to meet your father’s murderer in prison, shake hands, hug and forgive him? That’s exactly what she did!

Candice Mama is the author of “Forgiveness Redefined” and started her work in forgiveness, reconciliation and trauma after her story of forgiving Eugene De Kock, made international news. 

Having been inundated with requests to show people how to forgive, she went on to become an award-winning international speaker and her story has even been heard by The Dalai Lama.

She was chosen to lead the UN backed initiative Women Power in South Africa (making her the youngest member to hold the position) and is making her mark in the humanitarian field all before the age of thirty

She is one of Vogue Magazine’s top 33 most inspiring women in the world alongside: Nicole Kidman, Michelle Obama, Malala and was named in the Top 20 African Women by the African Union and United Nations celebrating women who have contributed in building peace in Africa presented by UN Secretary General António Guterres and Norwegian Prime Minister Erna Solberg 

In 2020 as the United Nations celebrated 75 years, they chose 75 people to celebrate and honour and Candice was chosen as one of the #UN75 People: 75 Stories

Some key points from our interview:

·      How her stress symptoms were so severe at 16 that she thought she was having a heart attack but how being that low was a catalyst for her to change her life

·      How she realised that if she allowed it that her father’s killer would kill her too if she didn’t live differently

·      How she sees that realisation was a blessing as she feels she wouldn’t be here today 

·      How she found the strength to go to prison to meet the man who murdered her father 

·      How she understood that forgiveness was for her and not Eugene De Kock

·      How she realised that holding onto her trauma and narrative kept her in her pain and she chose to let it go through forgiveness

You can find out more about Candice and  her book, on the links below: 



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"Unbroken: Healing Through Storytelling" features  individuals who have all triumphed after adversity and have not just bounced back in life, but forward and are now making a difference for others.

She really believes in the power that comes when we share our stories, that in fact we are not story tellers but story healers. Tune in to discover what helped them to stay unbroken and together we will discover that none of us are broken beyond repair.

You can find out more about Madeleine and her book, Unbroken,  from her website: https://madeleineblack.co.uk/